Learning To Live Without Blaming

We as human beings have a weakness in finding fault with others. Worse still, the people we harshly judge the most happen to be the ones closest to us; our spouses, relatives, colleagues and closest friends.

How many times have you seen parents scolding their children, especially for faults that are trivial or innocent. How many couples are fighting all the time? How many times have you thought evil about your friend and asked yourself questions as to why they didn’t do this or that?

One thing that we should all look into is the motive behind the action that we see as wrong. Our actions are usually a reflection of our individual character and the faster we learn the character types of each the easier it will be to deal with each person at their level.

For example if a person promises to call, and does not call, the next time you talk to that person, do you accuse them of not keeping their promises, do you ignore and assume there was a good reason as to why they didn’t call or do you ask them politely about it.

Think about it. Before you blame someone, before you get angry at someone, before you talk negative about anyone, before you make a decision that will affect your relationships with someone, what would be your motivating factor! Sometimes we see more than the actual facts are. Create in your heart a place called "I also have some faults as a person : why am I so aggravated with others' faults!"

Remember, love does not keep a record of wrong doing.